NAVIGATING GRIEF: A JOURNEY THROUGH LOSS AND MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS

 

Queen Elizabeth II Hall has suffered losses over the semester and this loss has left many of us shaken and withdrawn. We are left afraid and anxious with questions about the frailty of life. It is only the fifth week of the second semester and already so much has happened.

Grief is a weight that weighs heavy on us and carries a profound impact, especially on such a close-knit environment like Queens Hall. Each passing has created a collective sense of sorrow and vulnerability. Emotions that range from sadness and disbelief to anxiety and fear. This emotional rollercoaster is not just limited to the friends and the family of the deceased but it extends to roommates, floormates and Queenites who resided in the same block as they did.

There must be an open acknowledgement of the grief that we face because ignoring and suppressing grief can lead to a sense of isolation and despair. Open conversation and a supportive environment are crucial in acknowledging and addressing the collective sorrow and the weight of grief that Queens Hall faces.

A candlelight procession was held for one of the students who passed away. At the procession, Queenites were able to share their grief. Coming together to discuss the pain felt from loss is one of the best ways to deal with grief and Queenites were opportune to have this experience. At the procession, the hall chairperson talked about the importance of love. The little thank yous, I love yous, how are yous, that make up a person’s time on earth. It is impossible to share these sentiments when they have passed on.

Just as we have different long languages and express love in different ways, we also grieve in different ways. Grief manifests in different ways. Some may seek solace in solitude, while others lean on the support of friends and family, and others share memories and laughter despite the sorrow.

Regardless of how we choose to express our anguish, the University of Ibadan has provided a safe space for students who are struggling with their grief to find help. There are counsellors at the Jaja Clinic, at the Youth Friendly Center and other clubs, such as the Asido Foundation, on campus

Even through this tumultuous process, we must remember the importance of mental health. Grief is a natural and universal experience, however, the intensity and duration can vary. In some situations, grief can lead to mental health challenges. The emotional strain may trigger or worsen underlying conditions such as depression and anxiety. Additional stressors may also stem from the loss and increase the risk of mental health issues. This is why it is important to seek support during the grieving process once you think you are being overwhelmed.

While it is a painful and largely unwelcome affair, grief carries profound lessons. It gives us a heightened appreciation for the transient nature of life as the departure of a loved one emphasizes the fragility of existence. This realization often leads to a purpose-driven attention to life. It encourages individuals to be encouraging and supportive of one another.

In challenging times, we must come together as one. We must extend our empathy and support to one another and be mindful of our mental health. Grief affects everyone differently and we must build an environment of compassion, understanding and kindness. Check-in on your roommates and floormates as a simple gesture of care and affection can make a significant difference to someone.